It can be difficult to intervene in the moment when you witness harassment, for example, because it doesn’t feel safe to act right away. That doesn’t mean your role as a bystander is over. There is a way to provide support after the incident has ended: Delay.
What is Delay?
Delay means checking in with the person who was targeted after the situation is over, to see how they are doing. This can be something as simple as asking if they’re okay, or offering to walk with them to a safer or quieter place.
Why is Delay effective?
Offering attention and support after an incident of harassment or intimidation can make a big difference. Many people who experience harassment feel isolated, shaken, or uncomfortable afterward, even if the incident was brief. By checking in, you show that they are not alone and that what happened matters.
How can you use Delay?
Here are a few ways to put Delay into practice:
- Ask if they’re okay: A simple check-in shows that you noticed what happened and that you care.
- Offer practical support: For example, offer to walk with them to a safe place, get a drink, or help call someone they trust.
- Listen actively: Sometimes there is no need for action, just for someone to listen. Giving space for their story can be a powerful form of support.
The difference you can make
With Delay
you can create a meaningful moment of human connection. This strategy helps people who were targeted feel seen, heard, and supported — which can contribute to healing and empowerment.
Want to learn more about how to use Delay and the other D’s? Join Fairspace’s #DoeMeeMet5D training (Dutch only) and build your bystander intervention skills in a safe and practical way.
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